Have you ever had an experience that was amazing the first time, but terrible the second time around? Or vice versa? What made it different the second time?
Quite few times actually. Restaurants that served good quality food the first time and then slowly declined or the difference between my first and second visit is enormous I could hardly believe it is the same establishment. Places of interests like resorts, major tourist attractions, theme parks that for some reasons don’t offer the same quality of service anymore. Likewise with hair salons, spas, beauty farms and stores.
I think it is more common these days compare to other years because of recessions. People don’t get the same service and quality anymore for their money. If you want quality nowadays you have to go high end and even then. Most famous places and brands are overrated and not everyone can afford it. Just my opinion.
And of course the ever popular “Love is sweeter the second time around.” No it isn’t. Keep in mind that you go separate ways for a reason, that no matter how many lessons you learned from whatever mistakes you made within/during that relationship and vowed not to do it again this time will not erase the fact that the two of you called it quits instead of working on it. It means the problem is serious enough for the two of you to give up instead of resolving whatever differences were there between you and the other person. And that problem will not disappear overnight just because you decided to give it another try. Chances are you will come out from that second time around more disillusioned than ever but hopefully wiser.
Of course in every rule there is an exception but like it says, exception is a special case and not the standard. In general, when it comes to love, there is no second glory believe you me. I have enough experience with this matter to last me a lifetime. People change and evolve constantly I know but it doesn’t mean they can alter their basic foundation and core. Can the leopard change its spots? I’m afraid not. People cannot change their innate nature no matter what they say or lead you to believe…
3 thoughts on “The Second Time Around”
I am probably wrong, but I thought the second time around re/ love was meant to involve a different person–not the one you fell in love with the first time. As for the restaurant food, I’ve noticed that as well, but there are also 4 or 5 restaurants in my town that have been consistently good for 14 years while the others come and go–probably for the reason you mention. http://judydykstrabrown.com/2015/09/23/one-is-sufficient/!
Lucky you, you’re living in a place where the concept of fine dining is still intact. Here where I currently reside, anything new and different doesn’t last long. I think people here are a bit old fashioned. They are not ready yet for change. About second love involving one person, if you are right, then there is also third, and fourth and so on time around.
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