A little bit of self deprecation sprinkled here and there can help people feel more relaxed and connected.
However, you’ve also seen the flip and more extreme side of self deprecation. Whether it’s a family member constantly taking jabs at himself or a friend who counters every compliment with a sassy one-liner, self deprecation can often be a cover for a much deeper issue.
Thoughts, words, actions, character — they’re all connected. What you think and what you say matters, especially in regard to yourself. Every time you affirm something with words, it gains power. Continually trash talking the way you look, what you do and where you come from reinforces negative beliefs. Those beliefs shape how you see yourself and how others see you as well. Even in attempts to be funny, more relatable or relaxed, self deprecation can be a slippery slope.
Every time you disregard, belittle or devalue yourself you chip away at a positive self image. While it may seem like harmless humor, self deprecation often is what many people use to mask their insecurities or self loathing. In an attempt to deflect embarrassment, self deprecation is a way to hurt yourself before anyone else can hurt you.
Warning: If YOU insist you are UNWORTHY You Attract People Who Agree.
— Terri Cole