“Is human nature to believe that other places and other times are better than the here and now.”
― Brandon Sanderson
I was talking with my partner yesterday about future plans, what we are going to do with our lives, how we can achieve our goals, realize our expectations and dreams, get out of the rat race and be more or less self-sufficient. We both feel that we got stuck in this life somehow by not utilizing our full potentials to accomplish what we set out to do and ultimately succeed. We want to move forward, be somewhere else, someone else. We are hunger for a change, new destinations, another way of living, novel horizons. We are frustrated and disappointed with the current, we want out.
Our brain storming went on whole day till past midnight without definite result. No concrete plans. We are still stuck in the here and now. The problems remains. The options still the same. We lost a day and half a night discussing, we forget to take our daily walk, take advantage of the last remaining day of summer and enjoy the sunshine. We forget it was Sunday, the only day in the week that we can fully relax and be together. We got caught up thinking about the future we completely lost track of the present.
It is like that everyday of our lives lately. We just go on with the motion of living without appreciating what we have at this moment. We are so focus on change we forget to live in the here and now. We look for alternatives, hating them and calling them surrogates which only added to our dismay which in turn affect our relationship and day to day existence. We lost the capacity to savour what there is, enjoy little things, appreciate small blessings like nice house, nice car, nice food and each other.
There is no wrong in working hard to better yourself. It is not a crime to dream, aspire and work for the future. There is no shame in wanting to be self-sufficient or getting out of the rat race, chasing new destinations and novel horizons. But it is a pity that by doing so we forget the here and now. we forget living and enjoying the present. Cheating ourselves of today-We stuck on tomorrow, and today trickles away like water down a drain. We wake up the next morning and that today that we wasted is gone forever. It’s now yesterday- they say happiness is achieved when you stop waiting for your life to begin and start making the most of the moment you are in. That Now is the only time we have, and the only time we have any control over. But we easily forget these and failed miserably to apply it in day to day basis, always looking for better destinations and greener pasture.
I’m guilty of the offense. Life is what happens out there while we are busy theorizing our very own existence. We can still plan and dream, work hard but at the same time making the most of the present, relishing the moment. Carpe Diem and take one day at a time, one step at a time without constantly worrying about the future. It is easier said than done but there is no harm in trying. I don’t know about you but I will certainly do my best. Let’s start here and now.