Thursday Thoughts

Trauma is like Lord of the Rings. You go through this crazy, life-altering thing that almost kills you (like, say, having to drop the one ring into Mount Doom), and that thing by definition cannot possibly be understood by someone who hasn’t gone through it. They can sympathize, sure, but they’ll never really know, and more than likely they’ll expect you to move on from the thing fairly quickly. But that’s not how it works.

Some lucky people are like Sam. They can go straight home, get married, have a whole bunch of curly headed Hobbit babies and pick up their gardening right where they left off, content to forget the whole thing and live out their days in peace. Lots of people however, are like Frodo, and they don’t come home the same person they were when they left, and everything is more horrible and more hard then it ever was before. The old wounds sting and the ghost of the weight of the one ring still weighs heavy on their minds, and they don’t fit in at home anymore, so they get on boats go sailing away to the Undying West to look for the sort of peace that can only come from within. Frodos can’t cope, and most of us are Frodos when we start out.

But if we move past the urge to hide or lash out, we can become Pippin and Merry. They never ignored what had happened to them, but they were malleable and receptive to change. They became civic leaders and great storytellers; they were able to turn all that fear and anger and grief into narratives that others could delight in and learn from, and they used the skills they had learned in battle to protect their homeland. They were fortified by what had happened to them, they wore it like armor and used it to their advantage.

It is our trauma that turns us into guardians.  It is suffering that strengthens our skin and softens our hearts, and if we learn to live with the ghosts of what has been done to us, we just may be able to save others from the same fate.

– S.T. Gibson


9 thoughts on “Thursday Thoughts”

  1. As I kept reading, Aragorn came to mind. More and more, especially with descriptors such as tougher skin and tender heart. Aragorn, the ranger–the wanderer–who through his experience becomes ready to be a leader. Ready to be king. if this is the kind of person you can relate to, that’s grand.


    1. Clever of you to incorporate Aragorn, the missing piece. I was torn between him and Sam. In the end I have chosen Sam, simply because he is pure, not your usual hero, unprepared. No background and field experience to back him up. Yet without him, there will be no Frodo. To me he is the true hero of LOTR.

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      1. Yes, Sam is a splendid choice. He is resilient, remaining constant in his affection for Frodo and his mission. And after the wars and all, he goes home, has a family, and lives a contented life. “Well, I’m home,” I think are the last spoken words in the trilogy, and they are spoken by Sam.


      2. Yes. If I want adventure, I will definitely choose Aragorn, he’s my type, tall and dark. But if I want to settle down , Sam is the safest bet.


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