One Down, How Many More To Go?

I vowed in my previous post that I will honor my previous cancelled appointments with various medical specialists. So, today at ten past 10:00 a.m I went to the hospital and had a brief hostile talk with a neurosurgeon. Hostile because he was very curt with me. Maybe it was my fault. I can imagine myself emanating distrust towards these people and somehow they can read it. Of course they can. They are trained to spot these sort of attitudes. But who can blame me?

We started off on the wrong foot. He greeted me at the door with an almost friendly “How are you?” It took me a couple of minutes to get around the question and give some answer, by that time he already irritated by my silence and decided to be brief with me. But I find that what he said was out of place. I was there with him so, obviously I am not fine. Anyway he was borderline rude.

After he checked the images of my head, shoulder and neck on his screen he told me that my cervical vertebra is leaning backwards instead of normally curving towards the front. When I asked him for a reason why, he told me he doesn’t know yet since we just met five minutes ago and if there is someone who knows why it would be no other than myself since I am the one feeling the discomfort. What a charming guy he is.

He handed me a paper to give to the medical secretary for another appointment next week Oct. 14 to the nuclear medicine department to have some scan I’ve never heard of before. Whole body this time. The woman at the desk told me I have to be injected with something, wait for three hours before they can go on with the procedure and come back the week after, Monday Oct. 19 to talk about the result with that  brusque neurosurgeon again who by the way sent me to the other side of the hospital to get my blood taken. He handed me a form with a list of things that have to be checked. Most of the terms are foreign to me but what else I can do but obey? As long as he is not suggesting to tinker with my essentials and vitals via some form of operation, I’m okay with it.

I’m home now writing this. Then I’m off to bed to have some sleep. I’ve been awake again for two days straight and have to gather my wits to write poetry later for Writing 201 assignments. Lord, I’m in pain! But I need to train my brain to keep sane that’s why I keep writing despite of everything.

Till later… 

 

27 thoughts on “One Down, How Many More To Go?”

  1. Hang in there! My husbands X-Rays look exactly like your picture. He had surgery last year and was in a neck brace for 4 months. Had to sleep sitting up for the entire time. Not much fun! I hope that you start to feel better soon and that you get some answers. ~M

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      1. True. I am also in medical field (psychiatric nurse) we are normally trained to be patient, friendly and compassionate but I guess that neurosurgeon is an exception to the rule. Maybe being the head of the department gives him the right to be nasty.

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      2. I imagine that he has just grown numb to much of what he has seen. It’s a protective measure that people often use when they see too much pain and heartache. I feel sorry for people like that, because they have shut off their emotions to a point that begins to hurt others. 😦

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  2. It’s too bad your surgeon is so rude. My surgeon was wonderful. I had fusion done at c6-c7. All of the pain went away shortly after surgery although some numbness persists a few years after the surgery..

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      1. I wasn’t thrilled with the notion of having it done. My quality of life was so degraded due to the chronic pain that I finally conceded. I had multiple cortisone shots and they only lasted a few months at first, then not at all near the end. I can now sleep without interruptio and there’s no pain anymore.

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    1. I’ll ask him next time. As you can see in the comments above, people have given me valid and interesting reasons as to why he acts that way but when everything said and done whatever is behind his manner of dealing with me or other patients, he doesn’t have to be like that.

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  3. My mother has a doctor that I can’t stand. He has the same bedside manner as a really ticked off lobster: agitated and snappy. The few times I went to Doctor’s appointments with her, he was exceptionally rude. She would just say “ok”, I’d ask questions and he’d answer me in doctor-speak, although I’m almost certain that it wasn’t even real doctor-speak. He was condescending, rude, and aloof. And this was my mommy that needed his help because she was really sick. I honestly do not like the man. However, despite the fact that I can alphabetize the reasons that I don’t like him, when push came to shove, the man saved her life; twice. Yes, he was condescending and rude to me, my sisters, and my father when we were asking question post operation, but it’s OK. She’s alive, and he saved her. When DH sliced his thumb tendon, the doctor he got was also less than stellar with his bedside manner, but DH has a fully functioning thumb; something the “nice” doctor said couldn’t happen due to the injury. So far, jerky doctors have proved themselves to me. nice doctor hacked my mother into a Frankenstein memorial, told DH he would maybe gain 20% of his thumb usage back after months of therapy, and told my grandmother she would be fine right before she died. Nasty doctors saved my mom’s life twice, gave DH 99.99% of his thumb back in less than a month, and saved my grandmother through 9 of her 10 heart attacks.

    You may not like him, but he may be able to help you better than you ever imagined. Just think, you want someone who knows their stuff, better than anyone else; you want the guy who put his nose in his text books and came out smart and competent, not the one who spent his med school years in a pub being friendly.

    I hope all goes well for you!

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    1. Funny because my husband and I both think the same as you do about doctors. Being in this condition for more than ten years, I’ve been to a lot but this one is the first who speak clear language that’s I tolerated his rudeness. The rest is remain to be seen. If in my next visit he still act that way, I will point it out to him that he can do it also in another manner. Thank you for sharing your experience.

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      1. I assume it’s a specialist. They can be cold because you’re not their only patient. They get the same questions all the time. I know everyone is different, as are their medical problems, but that doesn’t mean the questions aren’t always the same. A good example of this would be a divorce attorney. Every marriage, therefore every divorce is different and multi-faceted; but how many times a day do you think the secretaries have to answer the question “do you handle divorces?”, or the attorney’s have to answer “can you get me everything and my kids?”..the questions are almost always the same. You want to see a different side to him, ask him a question about your particular situation that is not the same old question, and you’ll see his eyes light up and he’ll start talking like he’s just cured cancer..you probably won’t understand a word he’s saying, but you’ll get the other side of him.

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      2. Oh, I wasn’t saying you do. I was just saying that’s part of being a specialist…you basically hear a version of the same question 1,000x a day. But every so often, you can be lucky enough to hit one question that (s)he hasn’t heard in a while, and you can see in their response that that’s why they chose their field. That’s all. It wasn’t personally about you. I’m sorry if that was unclear.

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      3. In theory, this is true, but in reality, not as much as you would think. For example, my mother has hernia issues (she has them repaired then gets new ones). Her situation is unique because of the number of hernias and the frequency with which they threaten her life. My best friend’s s/o also had a hernia which required an operation. I can name at least 10 other people that have had operations on hernias. Every single situation is different, every hernia different, and the threat to the patient is different as well. This is all true. So is the fact that all of these people essentially have the same problem: hernias. Of course, everyone is going to ask the same questions regarding hernias (what are they, how are they caused, do i need surgery, etc.), and most people have specific questions about their specific condition. However, if you’re a specialist, you probably see 10 people a week with the same type of hernia that requires the same type of treatment; therefore, it’s not really unique questions. To the patient they are unique, and to their families, but to the practitioner, they’re not. At least they’re not unique questions if the practitioner has been doing what he does for a while.

        Think of an OBGYN. In their daily jobs, the do pap smears, help people access birth control options based on their needs, guide women along in their pregnancies, and deliver babies. It’s a broad spectrum of things they do daily, obviously. Let’s look at pregnancy-specific. All first time mother’s have unique pregnancies, some requiring bed-rest, some go into labor early/late, any number of things can be different between one pregnant patient and the next, but still, the doctor has to answer a plethora of questions that are the same, because people, despite being around and having babies for a zillion years, still want the doctor to assure them the baby is alright, that what they’re doing is alright, and that at the end of the day they’ll be holding a happy and healthy baby.

        No two people are the same. No two people feel pain the same way. No two people have the same problems. But when you deal with a small sample of the human population (as a specialist does), you tend to hear the same questions repeatedly. It’s part of the job. But once in a while you do get a case you’ve not seen before, and that’s different, but that’s rare. Not everyone needs House to figure out what’s wrong with them. And in a perfect world, people would ask their doctors the same questions five million times, and every time it’s asked the doctor will respond in a way that makes the patient feel secure; but in the real world, with real people, nerves can sometimes win; even when you love what you do.

        Having said all of that, I am going to say that I believe that doctors have a responsibility: they should make their patients feel like a person and not a number. They should do their best to treat every patient with dignity and respect, and no patient should ever have to feel IN ANY WAY deterred from asking a million and three questions. Unfortunately, not all doctors are that way. That’s how you find the right doctor. (S)he doesn’t have to be warm and fuzzy, (s)he doesn’t have to hold your hand and cry with you; (s)he DOES have to know what needs to be done and be able to do it, and (s)he needs to be willing to take the time to answer your questions. It might be curt, it might be not what the patient wants (personality wise) from their doctor, but give me a gruff jerk who knows their job any day over a chipper newbie any day.

        The truth is, you really hope you’re doctor’s not in it to win a popularity contest, they’re in it to give you the best results they can. And that’s what really matters. HOWEVER, if your doctor makes you feel uncomfortable in any way, especially when it comes to asking questions, I don’t care if they’re the number one doctor in the universe, that is not the doctor you should use. Find the number two doctor in the universe and ask them all the questions you want and then trust them to do the job right.

        In other words, don’t discount a doctor who can help you because they don’t spew sunshine and rainbows, but don’t settle for a doctor who makes you uncomfortable. Do what is right for you, in your situation, and do it knowing it’s the right choice, not because a doctor told you to do it and he was pushy enough to scare you into it. We all want House to repair us when we break, but even House wouldn’t have a single patient unless he had three nicer doctors actually answering the patient’s questions.

        I feel like I’m babbling, so I probably am. It’s just something I feel strongly about. I have a large family, and some of them refuse to go to doctors who aren’t all sunshine and rainbows, even when it’s NOT the right thing to do. DH’s father had a heart issue recently, and the doctor that came into his hospital room to tell him about it wasn’t as polite as FIL wanted him to be, so he refused the necessary procedure. Luckily, his sons and wife forced him to see a second doctor who agreed with the first. FIL didn’t like her either because she wasn’t nice enough; luckily they convinced FIL to just do it and he’s OK, though he still doesn’t like the doctor that gave him back his future, because she wasn’t nice enough. If it weren’t for the prodding of the others, he probably wouldn’t have had it done until he found a CareBear to do it. My mother, on the other hand, was almost killed by a very nice doctor who had no idea what he was doing; the new doctor, the one no one really likes, has saved her life 2x over. It’s just my opinion, but CareBears are great to hold when you feel a little sick, but they are NOT who you want to cut into your person when you need a surgery…tufts of fur and infections and all that jazz 😉

        RANT OVER lol
        I do hope that any necessary surgeries in the future are successful, your pain relieved, and your post-surgical down-time minimal. I hope you get your life back plus everything else you could ever wish for.

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      4. I agree to some of your sentiments but not all.For example:

        “I am going to say that I believe that doctors have a responsibility: they should make their patients feel like a person and not a number. They should do their best to treat every patient with dignity and respect.”

        “I don’t care if they’re the number one doctor in the universe, that is not the doctor you should use. Find the number two doctor in the universe and ask them all the questions you want and then trust them to do the job right.”

        These, I agree. Bottom line is: Whatever the reasons are, doctors(or anybody) specialists or not regardless of what they personally think or mood on certain days don’t have a right to be rude to patients or anyone. I don’t expect them to spew rainbow and sunshine but just be normal respectful human being.

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